The Dos And Don’ts Of A Successful Divorce
Going through a divorce is rarely easy, even when both parties agree it’s the right decision. Our Tacoma, WA divorce lawyer knows that emotions run high, finances are involved, and the future can feel uncertain. That’s why it’s so important to approach the process with a clear plan and practical mindset. We’ve worked with many clients over the years and have seen firsthand what can help—and what can make things harder and every year our peers vote us Super Lawyer. Below are some dos and don’ts to keep in mind as you move through your divorce.
Do Prioritize Your Children’s Well-Being
If children are involved, they need to remain the top priority. That means keeping them out of conflict, avoiding blame in front of them, and working toward a parenting plan that supports their needs. Courts look favorably on parents who put their children first. We always encourage respectful communication and flexibility when it comes to schedules and co-parenting.
Don’t Use Your Children As Messengers
It can be tempting to pass messages through your children, especially when communication with your spouse is strained. But doing this puts kids in the middle and creates stress. Stick to direct communication with your spouse or let your attorney handle it if emotions are running high.
Do Keep Accurate Financial Records
Divorce often involves dividing property, assets, and debts. Keep records of all accounts, income, loans, and expenses. This will help us represent you effectively and prevent surprises later on. Organized paperwork can also speed up the process and make financial agreements more fair.
Don’t Hide Assets Or Withhold Information
Trying to hide income, assets, or property will almost always backfire. Courts expect transparency. If it’s discovered that either party is hiding information, it can hurt their credibility and lead to legal consequences. It’s far better to disclose everything upfront and work toward a fair resolution.
Do Communicate Through Your Attorney When Necessary
Some conversations are better handled with legal guidance. If speaking directly with your spouse leads to arguments or confusion, let your attorney step in. This can help reduce stress and keep the conversation focused on productive outcomes.
Don’t Make Emotional Decisions About Money Or Property
It’s understandable to feel attached to certain belongings or financial arrangements. But emotional decisions can lead to poor outcomes in the long run. Try to approach property division as a business matter. We help clients look at the big picture so they’re not making short-term decisions that could have long-term impacts.
Do Take Care Of Yourself
Divorce can take a toll on your physical and mental health. Eat well, get enough rest, and talk to someone you trust. Whether that’s a friend, counselor, or support group, staying grounded will help you make clearer decisions.
Don’t Post About Your Divorce On Social Media
Anything you post online can be used in court. That includes pictures, status updates, and even likes or comments. Even if your privacy settings are strong, it’s best to stay quiet online while the divorce is ongoing.
Do Plan For Life After Divorce
Think about where you want to live, how your budget will change, and what new routines you may need to set up. The more you prepare, the smoother the transition will be. We help our clients look ahead so they’re ready to move forward.
Let’s Talk About What Comes Next
Divorce can be challenging, but having the right support makes a difference. At Robinson & Hadeed, we’re here to help you make decisions that protect your future and your peace of mind. If you’re considering divorce or have questions about your current situation, reach out to us; we have 54 years of family law experience and can help. We’re ready to talk through your next steps and help you move forward with clarity and confidence.
